There have been so many instances in the past few months about girls and their behaviour and the main thing that I’ve noticed is that no one wants to take responsibility and everyone wants to blame the girls themselves.
I feel lucky that when I was a teen, the internet wasn’t what it is today. I was a pretty boring teen in the scheme of things but I hate to think that those times where I smoked a joint or kissed a boy would have been photographed and uploaded immediately for the world to see. But that’s what happens today. Teens have been conditioned to now think it’s normal to video or photo something and upload it without any reservation and mostly without any consequences.
The world of social media is a tricky one. It’s where you can construct the perfect version of yourself. Much like an online dating profile, your facebook, instagram, twitter and myriad of other programs can be manipulated to show the version of yourself that you construct. You can be seen as that cute, funny chick, the smart, nerdy girl, or the hot, sexy slut. And did you notice how every one of my examples was gender biased?
Because that’s where my issue lies. All reports and studies based on social media tend to focus on girls. Why are girls posing provocatively online? Why are they taking selfies coming out of the shower or getting ready for bed? The issue isn’t why are they doing these things. The issue is why they feel they need to. We only have ourselves to blame for providing a culture that glorifies all that is wrong with it. We give preference in the media to women like Rihannon and Miley – women who are unashamed of their bodies and rightly so, but turn it into a negative. Why? What is so wrong with the female body? This situation is similar to the breast feeding argument. It’s not like a mother is taking out her breasts in public to arouse those around her – she’s doing it to feed another human being who isn’t capable of feeding themselves.
Why is being sexual still considered something that only bad girls do? As a society we need to open our minds to how we view things. Females who are adults have the right to portray themselves any way they want. So I understand why there is concern about teenaged girls, because they are not adults. They are children. Who can be manipulated but hey, so can everyone. I have no qualms about girls and women feeling good about themselves and wanting to show it off.
What worries me are the girls who are doing it for the wrong reasons. Now I know, reasons for doing anything can be subjective but girls who are posting near-nude selfies because they want to feel validated or to impress someone else? That to me are examples of the wrong reason. Girls need to be taught that they are free to do whatever they choose but they need to be taught that there can be consequences, because once a picture is online it can never be deleted. Education is key. All teens need to be taught to respect one another, regardless of age, sex, gender, race etc. They also need to be taught how to be responsible online. It’s a shame that in this day and age, girls still aren’t free to express themselves as they choose, ares till subject to slut shaming and are still being blamed for what those around them do.